Why Speak Publicly ? Why Not? I have everything to lose, my children. Material things mean nothing, I literaly told the first CAS worker, "I don't want an apology/$ if something happens to them!"
- Gurpreet Accountability Singh
- Jul 26
- 18 min read
Why not? I have given more chances than certain organizations are worthy of being given grace around, gullible me thanking maybe they made a mistake, only to perpetuate the same disregard for my concerns and for a simple request to do the right thing.
I posted the following on Facebook, on July 25th, 2025 after dropping hints about being forthcoming with the truth about publicly funded organizations. After months of thinking that the right thing would happen, I feel that this is my only option. I have thought long and hard about it, and have no regrets as doing the right thing, legally and through all of the appropriate channels has left me with what I consider no other choice at this point.
I am absolutely humbled by those who have contacted me, concerned about my posts yesterday and today.
I cannot stress enough that I am okay, and will never give up this fight. Long read, but urgent request for help and sharing. This needs to come out now before they try to harm my kids and I. Everything in society is about how one is perceived. I am done being opresssed and silenced any further. This is literally the tip of the iceberg I have called my life since November 17, 2024. I am so damn proud of myself, and I hope this also inspires another person in their respective struggle. I have shared my mental health journey for the very same purpose!
I am asking for you to share your stories related to the failing Children's Aid Society and the Family Law Courts in Ontario, enough is enough.
They are far too comfortable upholding selective justice and service based on biases when they are supposed to be impartial and objective.
The harm that they have caused my children and I literally worthy of a Netflix documentary.
I am asking for your personal stories to be shared to:
I want to include these as features, while respecting confidentiality, but also mobilizing and holding them accountable on blog and website coming very soon.
As a teacher and a social justice advocate involved in accountability and calling it out and reporting it when I am supposed to, I cannot tell you incredbily frustrating the performative actions employed by many orgnaizations are subjecting folks to.
The terrifying piece about the situation most can't fathom, let alone take on with grace while healing themselves and simulataneously protecting their children is that these organizations did this to me. I am confdidently asserting that I am a highly educated mother who worked in mental health and addictions for five years prior to teaching for over 10 years now and having had to navigate oppression in some of those same systems.
I truly wonder, what have they subjected parents who are not well informed, who might afraid of the systems based on their respective traumas, while unable to speak English or wrap their heads around these systems? The sad reality is that not everyone is equipped with the internal and external resources that allow them to be as resilient as I have been and have had to be, because my children are my world and my lifelines.
As resilient as I am, I am utterly exhausted living in, operating in, and seeking justice in what is supposed to be the legally correct way to get it. Sadly the truth I have shared has been weaponized against my children and I.
Those who know me, know my dedication and lack of fear of those who abuse their power for their own gains. I am done being silent, stay tuned as I continue to strategically share the vile abuses I have had to endure through these two terrifying systems. The thing they don't realize is I am a mother and a human committed to the bigger cause, who will never stop until I get the justice my kids and I deserve.
Having ADHD, I have apologized for too much. I am done apolgizing for my gut instincts that have literally never failed me as research shows I have a literally sixth sense and an extreme ability to recognize patterns. I am done apolgizing for what has always happened. I am taking up space that I deserve because research also shows that due to the Neurodiversity, I have had to work twice as hard, and I am celebrating who I am, and never looking back at the spaces or folks I wanted to belong in. They were and will never be for me.
This is a massive social justice issue with implications for the general public, and it is absolutely time to have a look at why the Children's Aid Society has so much power and control. Furthermore, I literally want a systemic overhaul that looks into how and why they have so much power, and need evidence to be able to do so, which is also why I am asking for your personal stories of oppression and injustice related to them and the Family Courts in Ontario, especially around Coercive Control and how they have impacted your mental health and that of your innocent children who deserve to be loved, safe and secure. Not on medications due to greed and ego, all in the name of egos and getting a WIN.
Having delayed legal proceedings, I have begged Justices of the Peace every single time I have appeared before them, on record to prevent the coercive control and full use of the
Legal Abuse Scale by Gutowski & Goodman.
1. Threatened to use the court to take custody of your children away from you.
Yes, from day one, fixated on getting access to full and drank disclosure in spite of not needing to submit it until one is before the courts (I prepared it knowing who I was dealing with, but they did not receive it until my kids and I were protected in a system harming us), trying to ask for spousal support, going after my pension, and in an attempt to minimze any respective child support to be paid.
2. Actually took you to court to take custody of your children away from you.
Refused to consider the impact on the children and their respective wellness. Legal counsel ignored my legal counsel, all to prolong the legal costs and proceedings is often a strategy used against partners, primarily women (not minimizing the men who have been subjected to abuse by their partners, sharing my story).
3. Threatened to use the court to get unsafe access to your children.
Enabled by a chapter of the Children’s Aid Society, Ontario as well as his lawyer, from a law firm known to prolong the legal process to get billable hours (According to Google Reviews).
4. Actually took you to court to get unsafe access to your children.
Ignored my separation agreement in December and his legal counsel literally copied and pasted the work given to them, inserting his name in key parts we asserted, by my intelligent lawyer. His legal counsel also ignored my lawyer, harrassed me through text messages, would not leave the home (matrimonial rights afforded to all in Ontario), had a camera installed in the house, which I was not allowed to have removed. At one point, I called the non emergency number for the region I live in and was told that I should consider moving and letting him reamin in the house even though it would disrupt the lives of our children and their rourtines.
I was also served paperwork less than 2 months after asking for a separation covering areas that the Emergency Case Conference is not supposed to address (apparently child safety is supposed to be paramount in the Family Courts, Ontario, but it is not).
False allegations through CAS and emergency motions shoved into the one court appearance based on the safety of my children (March court date only given for the kids safety), in spite of being told in an email that they were not accepting applications for emergency case conferences for the issues that were legally served and accepted the day of the court appearance (selective justice and implementation of rules). Justice on this day of injustice stated, no application is more serious than the other.
This is interesting based on the email I have from said court who ignored my pleas, instead enabling further implementation of the legal abuse scale (14 out of 14) and coercive control enabled through the courts.Sadly on this day, which was supposed to address my children’s safety and custody, the courts allowed the opposing party to legally serve me paperwork she left with a tenant. They also helped her figure out how to navigate the internal systems of submission while penalizing my lawyer who queried why they continued to make exceptions for the party that had not followed the rules or expectations being asked about (selectively applying justice promoting injustice and harm) and the fact that they subjectively accepted their affadvavit full of lies as facts, dismissing my safety, assuming my kids should be with the partner that put them in danger (not disclosing this yet for protection reasons).
In spite of their illegally served paperwork on the very same day received the findings in the mail from the Children’s Aid Society. This was no coincidence.
Advocacy tips around the Children and Family Review Services Board and the Ombudsman coming and crtical.
Complaint against a children’s aid society
If you have sought or received services from a children’s aid society and have concerns about these services, you may have a right to complain to the CFSRB for one or more of these reasons:
*the children’s aid society did not give you a chance to be heard when you raised your concerns
*the children’s aid society did not give you a chance to be heard when decisions that affected your interests were made
*the children’s aid society did not give you reasons for its decisions that affect your interests
*the children’s aid society refused to proceed with your complaint
*the children’s aid society did not follow its complaint review process or timelines
You can apply to the CFSRB using Form 2: Application about Complaints Against a Children’s Aid Society . For more information, see Complaint against a children’s aid society.
Terrifying fact Children’s Aid Society knows will prevent accountability:
The CFSRB cannot review a complaint if the complaint is about:
1. an issue that has been decided by the Court or is before the Court
2. an issue that falls under another decision-making process under the Child, Youth and Family Services Act, 2017 or the Labour Relations Act
5. Threatened to use the court to punish you.
Incessantly (asked for separation agreement only to ignore the one proposed that upheld the status quo, ignored them, filed counter claims, lied, and ignored my legal counsel and I) back and forth between speak to my lawyer, you’re keeping my kids from me (alleging parental alienation when I was asking him to respect a key safety issue, to be shared later), and harassing me through text messages, looking for a reaction that could be weaponized against me in the proceedings as they allege I made these allegations up to garner an unfair advantage in the legal proceedings, post separation (who asked for a separation) and tried to insinuate I was a woman scorned who could not handle the break up. If you have seen me, the opposite has occurred, I have never felt (internally and externally) or looked better, having lost 45 pounds since he tried to destroy me with what appears to have been in the works for some time with his family.
6. Took you to court repeatedly.
Yes, I have been to court 3 to 4 times for family law and have been trying to get accountability from said CAS chapter in Ontario, that have continued to look for technicalities to have my request for accountability dismissed and legally delaying the proceedings, likely in what I suspect is an attempt to break me financially.
7. Took you to court when the only clear reason was to cause you distress.
Absolutely, him and his family were convinced that they would successfully force the sale of our matrimonial home, but I had something related to accountability and justice that will be shared later as these are matters being investigated formally.
8. Was dishonest about your character or mental health to professionals on your case (e.g., judges, mediators, evaluators, mental health professionals etc.).
Falsely claimed to have taken two full paternity leaves when I have paperwork showing otherwise (Pension Buybacks and Tax Returns, his and mine).
When working night shifts for many years, claimed to have miraculously taken our kids to all social recreational activities (a simple question to my kids about who does what, would not be difficult if the courts took a second to question the affadavits and understand why I kept being to be protected from the coercive control and legal abuse scale.
Yes, throughout “unfair advantage in the proceedings,” claim against me from his legal counsel, and that I was subjecting my children to a myraid of harms and abuse. Coached my children to lie to CAS, only able to convince the youngest who is closer to him, and my eldest is a twin of mine, tells the truth no matter what. The organizations accepted and perpetuated this narrative to harm me and get another win.
The courts have enabled him through the biased findings that the CAS issued the same day I received the legal documents, illegally served to me. This is critical because the fact that they were both at my house the same day, would have circumvented me from getting accountability around the findings the CAS delivered (as it would be considered in front of the courts), without any real proof, which they evidentally don't have to share with me, but I must prove I am a good mother who has literally done it all for my kids. This was no coincidence.
9. Was dishonest about your ability as a mother to professionals on your case (e.g., judges, mediators, evaluators, mental health professionals etc.)
The courts have enabled him through the biased findings that the CAS issued the same day I received the legal documents, illegally served to me. This is critical because the fact that they were both at my house the same day, would have circumvented me from getting accountability around the findings the CAS delivered (as it would be considered in front of the courts), without any real proof, which they evidentally don't have to share with me, but I must prove I am a good mother who has literally done it all for my kids. This was no coincidence.
10. Told professionals on your case (e.g., judges, mediators, evaluators, mental health professionals etc.) that you are trying to harm their relationship with the children.
Yes, throughout “unfair advantage in the proceedings,” claim and that I was subjecting my children to myraid of harms and abuse. Coached my children to lie to CAS who went along with his narrative. With the CAS, he claimed I was alienating him from his children, which was not happening. The CAS worker asserted that children belong with both parents, literally as a blanket statement, she had made her mind up already and asked my intelligent child for physical proof of something he could simply not produce nor should a child at that age ever be asked to do so, espeically by an organaziation tasked with protecting them. Instead they protected the perpetrator.
The courts have enabled him through the biased findings that the CAS issued the same day I received the legal documents, illegally served to me. This is critical because the fact that they were both at my house the same day, would have circumvented me from getting accountability around the findings the CAS delivered (as it would be considered in front of the courts), without any real proof, which they evidentally don't have to share with me, but I must prove I am a good mother who has literally done it all for my kids. This was no coincidence.
11. Threatened to withhold financial support.
Yes, both him and his family have outright refused to contribute, claiming I should be able to afford a 9.95 percent mortgage, all while asking for his half of the rent while also trying to undermine me by initially offering to pay half the bills. Strongarmed me into pay his car insurance to futher harm the kids and I. Also claimed that until I signed a separation agreement, I would not be given any financial supports. Related to this, him and his family have chosen to harm the children. I am at peace with a person not wanting to be married to me, but never did I suspect the abuse I have been subjected to post separation would be what it has become and why I am not ashmed to ask for help if others might be in a position to give back while I handle all of these deplorable actions inflicted upon my children, who did not choose who their parents are.
Lied on the affadavits (sworn documents), literally everything is a lie. The courts have accepted them as factual with his attorney has successfully sought and been enabled to seek an uncontested trial knowing I am fighting the Children's Aid Society for answers about their terrifying, bad faith investigation committed in vengence. Also knowing I have an investigation related to the matrimonial home simultaneously through other regulatory bodies. I have to share the abuse of power and the systems that enable and perpetuate harm against the real victims in this case because they are all about public perception and I am absolutely sure that I am not the only parent or guardian dealing with this. Enough is enough, and it is time get us all justice. Anyone who knows me, knows my relentless dedication to social justice and humanity for all. Privilege and safety should not be subjectively used to harm another party in the name of material gains, which will not go with us when our time to go arrives. The only guarantee in life is death, and this family does not care.
12. Actually withheld financial support.
Yes continues to harm the kids and I through the legal system. He was also able to submit his tax return, claiming to have the children at least half time to benefit financially. This was sadly far too easy, the Canada Revenue Agency did not ask for any proof, and accepted it as a fact. When I disputed this, I was told that there would be an investigation. Further financally harming me during the month of July with money I am highly dependent on. The Child Care Benefit portion was given to him not seeing, speaking to or taking care of our chidren in any capacity. He has money that he should not have been afforded access to without any actual proof, given the lack of interaction or regard for our children being housed, fed, nurtured or communicated with. Make it make sense!
13. Threatened to take control of all assets.
Partition Act fail (trying to force the sale of our matrimonial home) due to my commitment to finding information to address the unethical behaviour committed by him and his family in the name of finances and a never ending obsession to acquire properties. Ironically, in an an act of self preservation and damage to their reputation in the public eye. A sudden offer to settle came to me, after dragging me to court, which has resulted in lost income among other losses. I naturally refused as it was another insult to my intelligence they underestimated.
14. Actually took you to court to take control of all assets.
Yes, nothing but a fixation on material gains (selling the house, seeking spousal support and additional expenses, as well as wanting my pension). Sadly, he has continued to be through the Family Court System and the Children’s Aid Society. The hardest part of this is that in spite of strict legal conditions imposed upon him for a private for now matter, I was asked to pay his legal costs and that I was wasting public resources.
Despite devastating tragedies that led to the implementation of legal policies such as Keira's Law being implemented to prevent further tragedies. They are failing families.
‘Keira’s Law’ was intended to educate judges on domestic violence, coercive control,
Keira's Law, also known as Bill C-233, is a piece of Canadian legislation that mandates judicial education on intimate partner violence and coercive control. It was named in memory of Keira Kagan, a four-year-old girl who died in a murder-suicide with her father after concerns about his potential for violence were allegedly ignored by judges. The law aims to ensure judges receive specialized training on these issues, which can impact their decision-making in cases involving family violence.
Key aspects of Keira's Law:
Judicial Education:The law amends the Judges Act to require judges to participate in continuing education seminars focused on intimate partner violence, coercive control, and social context, including systemic racism and discrimination.
Focus on Family Violence:It specifically addresses the need for judges to understand the dynamics of intimate partner violence and how it affects children and families.
Electronic Monitoring:Keira's Law also allows for the consideration of electronic monitoring as a release condition for individuals facing domestic violence charges, enhancing the safety of potential victims.
Addressing Systemic Issues:The law recognizes that systemic racism and discrimination can intersect with family violence, and aims to equip judges with the knowledge to address these complexities.
Protecting Children:By improving judicial understanding of domestic violence, Keira's Law is intended to better protect children who may be exposed to or involved in such situations.
Impact and Implementation:
The Canadian Judicial Council is responsible for developing and delivering the training programs for federally appointed judges.
Family violence and gender-based violence service providers are hopeful that the law will lead to more informed and effective judicial decisions in cases involving domestic violence.
There is an ongoing effort to ensure that the training content is comprehensive and addresses the specific needs of judges in handling these complex cases.
Yet they have failed many of us miserably. Even when begging for them to notice the signs of Coercive Control they are evidently to recognize, they do not. Even though I have begged EVERY SINGLE JUSTICE I have appeared before to recognize what is happening and how I am being subjected to a terrifying amount of Coercive Control while being the only one who cares about whether or not my children are fed, housed, safe and most of all loved.
Related to this, I am currently paying a 9.95 percent mortgage, and have been relentless in making sure my kids and I are not homeless due to the never ending greed of others, totally confident that they would be able to for the Partition Act upon me.
I am an incredibly humble, proud person who has never asked for help except from a handful of people. This is the first time I am not afraid to ask for your help. If you know if anyone able to help me fight this incredibly necessary battle against these two orgnanizations while keeping my mental health in check, I would genuinely appreciate any support you might be able to offer in these circumstances.
If you are able, please let me know via text 647-219-4331
In addition, if you are able to contribute to helping my boys and I protected, please contribute what you can via etransfer gurpreetkaursingh82@gmail.com
Alternatively, you can help by buying me a coffee on the Buy me a Coffee Platform.
I am not afraid to ask for help, having extended as much as I can when I have been blessed to be able to do so. Noone has any idea, except a handful of close family and friends who know the true strength that I possess. If not able to help financially, I ask you to share my story and have those you know who have been harmed by the Children's Aid Society in Ontario and the Family Law Courts to share their stories. It is time to hold them publicly accountable.
Related to this request for help when I feel as if I am suffocating while doing all the right things legally, and getting results that are the opposite and unjust, I recognize there a ton of us unable to help others as they are barely getting by. I also know that others may be able to or wish to help support my long fight ahead of me.
Imagine claiming parental allientation while the mother of your children was desparately trying to keep your children safe and you end up having the chance to access them and refuse to contact let alone see them for weeks on end, with the family who claimed to love them doing the same. It is gut wrenching to watch your children reach out to the person you will be forever connected to, start to question their self worth, their right to be loved and protected by the other parent and whether or not they should have been honest about some of the disclosures they made that I am trying to protect them from? More to come on those grounds later.
Everything will slowly be revealed, but I am cautious about how much I share given the fact that some matters are currently in front of publicly funded tribunals and courts that are supposed to protect society. Sadly, there are systems that are failing the public miserably.
I cannot imagine how many families have lost their loved ones due to the subjegation of harm by these two groups and more over the impact on their children's mental health.
I know this debacle will impact my children for an incredibly long time, but I also have no shame in getting my kids the help that they deserve and need so that they grow up as healed, resilient children, not struggling like their mom did for 41 years.
During every single one of my forced court appearances by a legal counsel fixated on selling my children's matrimonial home, and getting billable hours completely disregarding my safety and that of my children, I cannot tell you that had I not been prepared, I never would have been able to fight the long, uphill battle that I am engaged in.
Moreover, if you have journalist contacts in the media, I would love for you to share them with me to discuss this and help it garner further awareness so that they stop the injustice.
It takes a village, and I am grateful, whether I get a penny or not from those able to help, that I am fighting a much bigger fight against organizational failures in Canada.
Make it make sense.
By delaying the legal processes they should be afforded the rights to secure safety and security.
I am tired everyone, but not anywhere close to giving up. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
Again please help to contribute to this battle that was supposed to break my children and I, if you are able to and let me know if you have any contacts in the media.
I know some might say, I could sell my matrimonial home, but keep in mind when a home amidst legal proceedings is sold in Ontario, it is held in trust, which would mean I am forced to rent at rates that are out of control, relocate my children from the only safety net they currently have, their home. I do not have anything extra to pay for first and last month's rent elsewhere, for those unable to see why I am not willing to sell this home until I get to the bottom of serious fraud committed against me. Again, more to come later.
If able to support financially in any way:
Etransfer will be humbly accepted for the sake of what remains of my strength and the safety my kids deserve during a debacle one cannot fathom (more to come later, every single detail will be out one day).
Or consider buying me a coffee, links below.
Share your personal stories of abuse perpetuated by the Children's Aid Society of Ontario and the Family Court Systems as you navigate complex, contentious situations.
Thank you again, everyone!
Gurpret Singh, OCT
Exhausted, but nowhere close to broken as I was for the last 12 years or so and nowhere close to finished until true accountability occurs! Now or never!
Please like, share, contribute, and help spread the word so that we can get accontability from failing systems.
Ps I knew Children's Aid Society is known to marginalize Black and Indigenous Families, this is just the surface of what is actually happening to folks not as outspoken or empowered as I. They had multiple chances to do the right.
Thank you all!
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